Honour/Dishonour & Conditional Acceptance
One of the core aspects of the information discussed on Tír na Sar is the notion of remaining in honour. Basically when it comes down to it we’re not ‘breaking the law’ but rather dishonouring our agreements. Through our ignorance of the law we often fall into a state of dishonour without even realising it. This can sometimes happen because we are not entirely aware of what we are signing ourselves up for when we ‘submit’ ‘applications’ of ‘registration’ but also occurs when we do not keep our word.
The phrases: A man is only as good as his word, and my word is my bond are helpful to give an idea what we are talking about here.
Rob Menard explains the concept here along with the ‘four doors of contract’:
To ensure a peaceful community people should honour their agreements and behave in such a manner that maximises peace and freedom for the community. When dealing with contracts (or any offer for that matter) there are ‘four doors’ or options we can take – this goes for any and all offers made to us, not just legal ones. Two of these doors places you i an dishonourable state and two will leave you in honour – but only one of these two has the power to bring about an outcome that is desirable to you, while still maintaining honour and peace.
- Ignore/Reject = Dishonour If we fail to handle our affairs responsibly and ignore the claims being made against us we show a lack of willingness to find remedy, engage in dialouge, and this leaves us in a dishonourable state.
- Dispute = Dishonour When we dispute the details we are essentially arguing. This arguing of details is what results in the need to go the Court so that the matter can be overseen by an ‘impartial third party’. Nobody wants to go to Court if it can be avoided so it’s best to avoid this sort of ‘this happened’, ‘no that happened’ confrontation.
- Accept = Honour – We can just accept unconditionally any and all claims made against us. Acceptance means that there is no dispute and that you agree to fulfill the obligations. This is the door that many would want you to take as it makes it easy for them to take your money/energy.
- Conditionally Accept = Honour – This final option is the most important and it is the one that people consider least of all (that is at least until they know about it
This option removes all controversy; such as might arise from doors 1 & 2 above, by saying that we accept all claims made against us, that we wish to provide relief on those claims…however unlike door 3 we are only accepting the claim/obligation upon the condition that those claims can be first substantiated and that they are in fact lawful.
Check out Rob Menards example in the video above where he talks about being asked to take the bins out by his sweetheart while in the middle of watching the game, to get an idea of how this works in everyday relationships also.
Contract is so much more than a legal area or ‘bits of paper’. Its about the very mechanics of human interactions.
